Dealing with Social Anxiety


  • Lower uncomfortable feelings that can get in the way of being able to talk with others and be part of a group
  • Increase your opportunities for friendship and fun
  • Help you to develop your talents and learn new skills
  • Enable you do your best at school or work

Many people often try to cope with distressing feelings on their own. Some of the strategies we use may help us feel better in the short term, but aren’t very helpful in the long run.

You may feel like…
Using alcohol or other drugs to ease your nervousness.

Having a drink or getting high can help to reduce anxiety before going to a social event, but it’s easy for it to become our only coping mechanism – preventing us from learning other strategies.

For longer-term results, think about….
Changing thinking patterns.

Social anxiety is typically accompanied by negative thoughts that a person holds about themselves and their performance in social situations. These thoughts often appear without any awareness and can occur before, during, and after the social event.

There are several self-care tools on this website that can help you learn to have thoughts that are based on facts and evidence rather than anxiety and fears. In addition, there are many counselors who are trained in helping people move towards more helpful kinds of thinking.

self-care resources

You may feel like…
Avoiding social situations that make you anxious.

This can seem like a good solution, but it can reinforce anxious feelings, making it harder for us to overcome them. It also prevents us from practicing skills and experiencing success in our interactions with others.

For longer-term results, think about….
Learning how to gradually face feared social situations and to be more comfortable in them.

This can help to overcome anxious feelings that are stopping a person from participating in social activities. Help in this area is also available through the self help resources we’ve listed or by working with a counselor who understands social anxiety.

If you’re looking for ways to manage shyness and nervousness in social situations, we encourage to visit our self-care resources or talk with someone about what’s going on for you. get support